Is it possible to win backlove?By Rob Thor
5/31/2010 10:52:22 AM -
Can you win your love back? Men and women from all over the world ask themselves this question over and over again, day in and day out. Some of them will just continue to ask the question, or try winning their loves back through persuasion or begging. But the truth of the matter is, you cannot control another person's actions, no matter how much you want to or how right you think you are. What you can do is control yourself, and how you come across to other people.
So when you're making a plan to win your love back, instead of focusing on him or her, you need to focus on yourself. Remember that it is not impossible to rekindle your ex's love for you. And also remember that in most situations, the ex still cares for his or her partner. Whatever happened to cause the breakup cannot be taken back, but you can work on not letting those things happen again when and if you know what they are.
Back to the main point of this article. . . How to get your ex back? There are actually some very straightforward steps that you can take to accomplish this. And these have been proven to work again and again. The very first step is to leave your ex alone, if you haven't already done so. That's right. Just let him or her go. If you've been pestering him or her up until now, this first step will actually work very well right away. Your ex will wonder what happened to make you stop. And then, instead of thinking of how to ward you off, or being annoyed with you, he or she will start wondering if you've met someone else. And they may actually start to regret not having given you a chance. Do not give in at this stage. Avoid all contact if possible. If your ex happens to seek you out in this stage, you can answer his or her calls. Be cordial and say it was nice to hear from them. But do not ask to meet or ever initiate any kind of correspondence. If he or she asks you why you haven't called, just explain that you've been thinking about stuff. If they want to talk about getting back together, by all means listen, and try to make an objective decision about what to do. Do not say "Yes!" immediately.
But in most cases, your ex will not start calling you only because you've stopped calling them. So, use this "away-time" to better yourself by eating right, exercising, getting enough sleep, taking time to look nice when you go out to work or out for fun, and just relaxing. You need time to build yourself back up so that when you do contact your ex again, you will be able to present a strong, healthy, catch to him or that he would not want to pass up. In very general terms, that's how you how to win back your ex.